I remember finishing my home science paper which was the last time I was in school uniform and the last time I saw some of the friends I considered close. By the way what usually happens? How can we be best friends for four years then once we all go our separate ways we become total strangers. Was it just for convenience or were we using each other without even knowing? Or was it just a societal norm?

And now I can feel like it’s happening again. I haven’t made a lot of friends in campus as I did in high school, I don’t know if that’s a good or a bad thing. I asked one of my best friends if he still talks to his former class mates in campus, and he told me most of the friends he had must have been for convenience. You know to form groups for assignments, to hang out with as we wait for the next class.

Everyone now has realised that it’s time to move to the next phase, they are looking for jobs, going for interviews, doing their own side hustles to make money ,you name it. Some are building new relationships and trying to figure out their purpose in life. This is the point where a lot of sieving is done. You sieve those that don’t add value and bring on bored those that do.

Old childish habits are left behind and we all man up. We move from drinking drinks whose names made no sense to drinking drinks with renowned labels. Our hang out joints are more mature, we only take part in activities that make sense and can relate to us. We dress the way we would like to be addressed and we even start to vet what goes onto our social media platforms.

For me transition is painful but an eye opener, I never know if I will be that friend that will be sieved out or the habit that will be left behind.

I guess life is one big transition.

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Hiding behind ‘Self Expression’


I love how at this time and age people are not afraid to show who they really are and what they believe in. Social media has come in handy in that it has given many a platform to air their views to the rest of the world without necessarily having to stand in front of a big crowd.

We express ourselves through clothes, hairstyles, opinions you name it but to some extent I feel we are using this as an excuse to justify immoral behavior. One of my favorite people once told me, “Dress how you want to be addressed”. The first thing people see when you walk into a room is what you came covered in and their perception of you starts from there.

My generation is a culprit of using this excuse. You get high and act irresponsible in front of a big crowd you say people are not understanding you, you’re just trying to express yourself. You put your boobs out going for a job interview hopping the interviewer will be a man so that you can use the power of seduction on him you still call that self-expression. We have normalized ratchet behavior among young girls and we still call that self-expression. Am a little confused here so what is really self-expression?

What happened to the days where we were all encouraged to learn how to speak our minds in a respectful way and have the facts. Days where before you said or did anything you thought through a couple of the factors surrounding you. I understand that things evolve with time but as we evolve let’s not forget to do the right thing. Choose your way of life and stick by it. This idea of only going with a certain flow when it only justifies your immediate action doesn’t make sense.

Make a choice and live accordingly. If being ratchet is what you have decided stick with it, this idea of choosing to go a certain direction when it favors you is lying to yourself. Let’s redefine self-expression and think twice before choosing a method of self-expression.

Be careful what you put out there especially online the human mind might forget but the internet never does.

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